It occurs to me that anyone who has just started reading my blog might wonder why I have chosen to stay child-free. The reasons appear in a post I wrote over five years ago, at the age of 39. Take a look. This post also contains the phrase "at the overripe-and-only-good-for-soup age of 39," which now offends me (and I apologize), but which I still find humorous.
But if you don't like clicking, I'll summarize:
1. Not interested in the lifestyle (devoting all time/energy/money to a child and all the stuff that children need)
2. I don't like being needed by others.
3. Don't think I'd make a good mother (please don't try to argue. This is completely subjective, obviously)
I also submit the following articles which sort of back me up on the lifestyle reason:
Kid Crazy: Why We Exaggerate the Joys of Parenthood - Discussion of the myth that children make you happier than you were before.
Child-Free by Choice - Studies suggest that a child-free marriage might be more satisfying for some because the arrival of children often creates a crisis for the couple.
I'd also like to add that I believe that life is very challenging, if not full of suffering, and I just don't have the heart (guts? ego?) to bring someone into the world. I didn't ask to be here and no one's asking me, so I'll just leave it be.
(Also, as far as I can tell, every single mother on the planet worries about being a bad mother and I have enough to worry about just living my own life.)